I'm so glad to read that, fern. It is indeed important to savor the present days and not let the past permanently ruin them. I imagine your family felt very happy and relieved this holiday season. Though scary events may not be completely forgotten, they don't have to haunt us forever. And we learn from them, which is a bit of a positive that can grow from a negative. I know this from my own experience with my bipolar illness. I learned it as a child after witnessing my mother's epileptic seizures. People must learn to go on with life even after the deaths of loved ones. It is part of life.