Hi, skeksi. I think it's very normal to use a therapist as another "point" in a triangle so you can get what is inside out, and look at and manipulate it to understand it. Your therapist is another person and his opinion is necessary to pull your own opinion out so you can turn around and apply it to yourself, believe yourself, like you want to.

Initially I don't think there is enough "room" inside our head and hearts to maneuver and "unpack" all the stuff we need to and then repack it better. That's how T's help us, they hold some of our stuff for us and comment on it while we're doing the work of unpacking and repacking; help us see what we can toss, what's valuable, what should be packed on top, close-at-hand, etc. :-)