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Dec 26, 2019, 03:28 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,077
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Because it's purely based on the hope that she will grow up sooner or later.
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My response is based totally on my personal experience after a failed marriage I allowed to last way, way, way too long.
Before the wedding, I saw red flags in him of attitudes that were totally immature. I was even going to call off the wedding because of it. My mother's lack of wisdom comment was "don't worry, he will grow up & change & become responsible when he has to".
The fact was that even at 54 when I decided to leave finally after years of counselling, the T told me that my husband (in his 50's) had the emotional maturity if a 12 year old. I understand NOW (12 + years after leaving) exactly why he was incapable of ever emotionally maturing.
The point I am making is that you can stay in the relationship with hopes she will mature but if it really bothers you even at this young age, constantly be aware of whether it is developing over time & never commit to a long term relationship when you have red flags glaring you in the face.
Yes, she is very young & immature but THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES she will ever change to be what you want in a partner. Use your watchfullness & wisdom & proceed with caution.
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Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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