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Old Dec 26, 2019, 08:54 PM
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Originally Posted by BirdDancer View Post
Yes to all of your questions.

I hope I have never triggered you. I say that because I know that, over the years, I have angered or triggered several people. I don't mean to, but it occasionally happens. I apologize to anyone, if I have ever upset, offended, triggered, seemed to lack empathy, seemed self focused, preachy, or the like. I am far from perfect.

I am somewhat familiar with many people here at PC, or at least as familiar as one can be with online acquaintances or friends. Others, I know little about. Of course I would want to avoid negatively triggering anyone, but though my memory is pretty good, it's also not perfect. If there is a thread with long lists of individuals' triggers, I might forget some. Actually, such a responsibility could be overwhelming and intimidating for me. Obviously, the usual things that trigger people are ones I try to avoid, but specific ones that most aren't triggered by, I might forget.

Considering the above, I fear that such a responsibility to never say anything wrong is a scary one. That's something that triggers me. If ever I became mass shunned for not being perfect in such an endeavor, I would have to leave Psych Central. That would be sad, because I love it here!

I know we are unique, with our own personalities and backgrounds. That's beautiful, but doesn't make us always fully understand or appreciate each other, in all ways. I assume someone(s) out there has/have perhaps blocked my posts because I triggered them, as I have blocked a few persons' throughout my life (not all here at PC). I, personally, think that's OK.

I'm not always soft around the edges, but I am not one to hate or hold grudges either. I know the need to modifying one's approach to situations and people, but not to the point of being untrue to oneself. I'm a believer that excessive pressure to be untrue to oneself can only lead to losing oneself.
Placing a responsibility on others to never say anything wrong wasn't the intent I had in mind. I find that to be unrealistic and a fools errand. I can see how it might feel that way, but its kind of the opposite of what I was going for. I was seeking more of an opportunity to learn about others so that I could better support them. My hope would be members would still forgive me if I accidentally triggerer them or forgot the details of something they shared as a trigger.

You're always incredibly kind and you navigate through difficult subjects with grace. I feel like you could ignore such a thread and thrive here regardless.
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Thanks for this!
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