(((((alex)))) So many of your memories brought back ones of my own. I think our moms had definite similarities. I am glad you are sharing all this with your T. I remember my mom used to make lists of chores for me to do. I couldn't go out to play or go see friends until my list was done. I would do all the things on the list, and then she would make me another list. Then I would do those things and she would make yet another list. It was hopeless. Eventually, I gave up and realized she was never going to let me go out and have fun with friends so I would make the first list last the whole day--that way, fewer chores. And the chores were really scuzzy things too, like cleaning the toilet in her bathroom, scrubbing the grout between the tiling on the floor down on hands and knees with bleach and a toothbrush, all sorts of crap, not just regular wash the dishes and vacuum type chores. I sometimes wonder what the hell she got out of this? What is wrong with some people? I think this permanently scarred my personality because since I wasn't allowed to socialize with friends due to my neverending chores, I became very reclusive, and I remain very shy and socially awkward to this day. I never got to "practice" socializing as a girl and so didn't develop those abilities.