Has anyone have the experience of someone, whether it's a coworker or a friend or even family members, speak to you as if they think you're stupid or that there's something wrong with you? Sometimes the tone of voice or how they act can indicate this. Also if there is something you succeed in, some people may look at you with a shocked expression, as if they are surprised you succeeded in something. Other times, they talk to you as if something is wrong, like they think you're autistic or have some other disability that you don't actually have. I have this experience quite a bit, most recently with my coworkers.

At work, if I state something that I know for a fact is right, some of them will give me a weird look and say it isn't right and that I need to make sure I ask first. And of course, it will turn out I was right and they weren't. Usually they will look at me as if they are shocked that I was right or if I succeed in something, they seem to be surprised that I succeeded in something. Other times, they will talk to me like something is wrong with me. The most recent example would be me not wanting to sit in a specific chair. The reason is because it's one of those annoying chairs that make noises with every slight movement, and it sounds like someone is passing gas.

For me, I don't want to be sitting in a chair that makes those noises, especially at work. Last thing I need is someone thinking I keep on passing gas. So one day I went to sit down and start working on stuff and when I quickly switched that chair with another one that didn't make noises, two coworkers that were sitting at the same table kept on asking me questions about it. They talked to me in a higher tone of voice than normal and started asking what it was about the chair that made me uncomfortable. They asked me if it was the texture, how the texture made me feel, if there was anything else that bothered me. To me, I felt like this was a little unnecessary and intrusive. They asked those questions in a way that they would talk to someone who has autism or other special needs, not in the same way they talk to each other as adults.

This is a minor thing but it made me very uncomfortable. I didn't want to go into the real reason since I don't think they need to know so I just said I simply didn't like it. There's been other times where I will be asked why I don't like something and it will be asked in a way that makes me feel like I'm less than them but this was the most recent example. How do you deal with people like this? Would you consider this kind of behavior intrusive? Is there a reason some people like to talk to you like you're stupid or as if something is wrong with you? Just wondered. There are many other examples but this was the most recent one. I know I am socially awkward but there's a difference between just plain social awkwardness due to being introverted and isolated and actually autistic.