I like the forum approach because if one person doesn’t answer, someone else does, and it will be someone who has thoughts on that subject. I do have some problems being assertive enough to have a deeper thing when someone is a devoted Facebooker. I have found I really have to put myself out there to make that happen, like finding the best place to have coffee, FaceTiming Afghanistan, writing stories for my grandkids, just being creative about finding out what pleases both parties involved.