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This thread is interested because it discloses a bit of the variety of personalities we have here on PC, and that is wonderful to me!
My triggers.....I think the worst one is that I am terribly triggered by being shunned because I'm asking somebody for their attention, advice, or care.
Being told that I don't deserve to ask for something, that my need is not important, that I am not worth someone's time and effort...that really hurts me and is definitely a trigger.
I am pretty sure I learned to feel afraid of asking for attention or help because my mom was severely mentally ill...I had to take care of her first, even before myself (this was from age 8 to age 42). There was no one else reliable to care for her, so I had to do it. Apparently I learned to believe that my own needs are worthless. Well, that was what she actually told me...that her needs came before mine because she was so sick.
I'm working hard on this problem, but it's slow going.
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