It's interesting that opposites seem to attract. As someone who might be described as having a wall, maybe I can give you can idea how it feels on the other side of that wall.

It often feels very intrusive when people don't give me space when I need it. Even though I know some people mean well. Sometimes people push so hard saying they care about me but showng by their actions that they don't care at all or respect my boundaries. First I feel guilty about shutting them out, then I start to resent them because it seems as if they they only care about looking like they care and don't care about how it makes me feel. I usually end up hating people who keep acting intrusive to show affection because it seems inconsiderate from my point of view.

I can't say that your boyfriend feels exactly as I do, but you might want to give him space when he wants to be alone. I think the way relationships are shown on tv gives the wrong impression that pressing people to talk about personal problems is a way to show that you care when it often makes things worse in real life.

I think it's good that you recognize that you have some tendencies and maybe need to find a way to keep busy. It's very hard being the one in a relationship who has to pursue a distsnt partner and the anxiety of it might cause you to drive him away. Do you have any interests like hobbies that can keep you occupied? Even games like Candy Crush can help pass the time. If your boyfriend thinks you are needy, he might feel a lot of guilt and that might lead to resentment.

Good luck. I hope my opinion didn't offend you.