
Dec 28, 2019, 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by Foo Fighter
Hey guys. Remember how I brought up my father in law's girlfriend? Well after her behavior on Christmas Eve I decided enough was enough and blocked her for good on Facebook. She was sticking her nose into when my husband and I would have children. She asked my husband and he did tell her something along the lines of hopefully someday soon. We found out we are expecting but I'm at five weeks and my husband and I decided to wait until February when I will hopefully be at 12 to 13 weeks to make the announcement. Anyway we go to see them on Christmas Eve and my nephew was playing a game were he bought a "baby". We joked about it and my FIL's gf comes between me and my husband and says "Don't you wish you could just buy a baby?" I gave her a look ( because WTF?) and my husband recovered for us. I decided to chalk my reaction up to hormones but it was embarrassing and unwarranted. Still my husband says Don't let it ruin the day and the rest of the day goes good. Laughing, eating some great brunch and watching my nephews play their strategy game. It was going good until we opened presents. One of the last ones my husband and I opened was bedsheets from you know who and his dad ( I don't think his dad had anything to do with what happened next but just explaining). FIL's gf announces in front of everyone my husband and I needed "Clean babymaking sheets." Remember that forced smile that the father from Corpse Bride gives when he is told to smile? That's what I looked like. My husband and I were thoroughly embarrassed but tried to play it off. I know this seems petty and maybe I am making a big deal but she crossed a line that shouldn't have been crossed. I do get it was a joke but it was hurtful and inappropriate. What if my husband and I were infertile? Or this pregnancy doesn't work out ( which I'm stressing out about allready)? Or if we simply decided not to have any? I told my husband I did not find her comments in any way funny, that I was sorry for being a stick in the mud or a drama queen but that joke crossed the line. Also I found out she potentially baited us with this as she asked my hubs for dimensions of the bed for bed sheets. Enough is enough. I have enough stress building a tiny human and I don't need her cracking offensive jokes or saying potentially harmful stuff. Yesterday I blocked her for good ( I was taking a break from her and I followed through on the "one more crack like that and I will block"). I thought I would feel better afterwards but I feel guilty. I feel like maybe I rushed to make that decision and maybe I am easily offended......that and this has the potential to start WWIII. But at the same time I don't want her sticking her nose into this pregnancy where it doesn't belong as she has shown she will do that. I'm sorry for the rant and all its just a mixed bag and I needed to vent.
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I dont think you are being a drama queen at all. She is being rude and inappropriate and probably would pull one of those "you're too sensitive" bs moves if you said something. No one has a right to be on your friend's list and cause you stress. Block away.
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Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
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