I regret writing the first paragraph above. It was cheeky of me. I will say there was one trigger expressed here which I identified as one I have definitely written, but not necessarily to the person who mentioned it. I am not an expert and there are times I feel powerless to properly give support, therefore I sometimes encourage people to seek out qualified support. Powerlessness is a horrible feeling, especially after you have lost someone(s) you love. "Could have", "Should have", "Would have", "Should NOT have" statements flood the mind. I wish I could do and say the right things all of the time, but I can't. No one can.