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Old Dec 28, 2019, 12:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Gymgirl71 View Post
None..it’s done. He was doing good for a while initiating more, and being more affectionate, not cancelling, but it’s short lived. He goes on about how he wants to get in shape and get rid of his beer belly, etc etc all I hear is bla bla bla. He has temporary periods where he does good which lasts 1-2 weeks tops.
He is showing you the pattern he follows where he binges and he is forty years old now, still living this same old pattern. This is exactly what I myself failed to see. Be good for a while, then begin being toxic again. Actually, a therapist explained exactly what I have been dealing with to me. This is something this ex has to work on, not anything YOU can fix or change. This ex needs to stop drinking and partying and learn to stop binging and it can take the rest of his life for him to correct or gradually change his behavior pattern. Some people never really change this pattern because they simply never learned how to work through their challenges. Instead they just learned to escape through their binge drinking/drugging.