almedafan, having input to your son's therapist doesn't mean you are talking to the therapist about your issues. Presumably, you would be talking to your son's therapist about your son's issues, right? You needn't actually do therapy with your son (as in family therapy) if that is not the best choice. You could just check in by phone every once in a while with the therapist, to provide new information, e.g. my son seems depressed and won't see his friends anymore, my son's grades have really dropped recently, my son won't talk to anyone anymore, etc. That said, I wish when my daughter began therapy that it was with a family therapist, so we would at least have the option of some joint sessions, if needed. I think the family system is pretty important when you are dealing with kids.

As for your T, why not just take him at face value and assume he recommended that particular therapist because he/she is good, rather than it being a backhanded way of getting you to bring up a certain issue in your own therapy? That just seems a stretch.... unless he has a history of playing strange games like that. You know him best.