I try not to spend too much time analyzing why he is the way he is because all it does is providing you with excuses to stick around (poor guy etc).

If he was your husband or son or brother or some other “for life” person, I could see how understanding him is of importance. But he is just a guy you hang out with, I’d spend time analyzing why you choose with these guys and what are your reasons, instead of focusing on why he does what he does, focus on what you do and why. And I recommend therapy. Not to analyze random men, but analyze yourself and wats to improve YOUR life.

Analyzing others who aren’t of any significance to you takes time away from mproving your life and working on yourself. It’s deflecting technique

He is of no importance. You are