I have a social worker therapist whom I've seen for about 2-3 years now. She has been helpful to me in many ways, and I do like her for the most part. She helps me to see some aspects of myself that I've been unaware of.

But we are opposites in several ways, and she is not someone I would have chosen for myself, IF I had had the choice. Unfortunately, through my insurance, and given my schedule, I had very little choice in therapists.

Sometimes we butt heads and I disagree with her advice and viewpoint.

I am a very proactive person in life. I am not aggressive, but I am proactive. And I am learning how to be more assertive with people and with establishing better boundaries, because this is something I've struggled with.

I am also a feminist. So where we butt heads is in the area of feminism and in other ways that I think require proactive and assertive action.

She's far more passive than I am, and I don't think she quite gets the fact that in my workplace on my team, I work with ALL men. And that means I have to be more assertive as the only female.

So I think my therapist can give some really bad advice when it comes to being assertive.

I want to go after a potential leadership position in my company. I had some ideas on how I would lead my team, and she poo-pooed the ideas, when the things I am thinking of would make our company and my team much more productive, far better in our skill set, cutting edge and competitive.

I guess what I am getting at is I know I have leadership qualities and skills. I've been a leader in various capacities and I have an ability to inspire, motivate and encourage people. I think I have some great ideas for improvement within my team, and I was super annoyed that my therapist rejected my ideas.

I cannot change therapists easily, but I'm thinking within the new year that perhaps I should.

I want someone who will support me being proactive, taking on a leadership role, and being assertive when I have to be within a whole group of men.

I don't think my therapist can do this for me. I see her as being much more conditioned to be a passive female who just sits back and accepts status quo, who doesn't want to make waves in any way and who doesn't want to take on a leadership role. And that's how she speaks with me.

Change and improvements only come from strong leaders who see a vision and who can implement it effectively. I see a vision and she just doesn't get it.

So we are oil and water and I don't think it's working for me anymore.

It feels good to write this all down and get it out there. These feelings have been building in me for a long time now.

Any input is welcome. And I hope I've put this post in the right forum.