You may find support re: working goals by finding a group supportive of women in business/ambitious women----I know there are some meet-up groups and in many places organizations led by and for women (eg Women's League/the like) can be great places to meet others and network/talk strategy. It sounds like your T may be helpful for some issues but not so much for others and it is a waste of your time to try to get this kind of support from her. Many women are still, whether they 'see' it or not, really afraid of upsetting the "norm"(a false one)---I am retired now, but I can think of so many times I was told "you can't do That" or "...catch more flies with honey"(anyone tell men that?)---and I can say that my best work was done when I did not listen to the naysayers. (even creating material and fine tuning procedures that I was told "We are still using that" years after I was working elsewhere----my only regrets are around those times I fell into the "be nice" (in the sense of "be meek") trap. I am Impressed with you. Keep on truckin