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Originally Posted by LadyShadow
You basically addressed everything I've feared. I know that as long as he is living where he's living, he may revert back - and it will probably be a constant struggle for the both of us in the long run.
The love addiction and co-dependency is also a real situation - because every day it's ripping me apart - I have let my studies slip with school, I've let myself go with self-care, and I've stopped my job search because I literally can't get out of bed. Today is a better day - even though I am STILL not doing what I am supposed to be doing even though my professor gave me an extension, I don't know why I can't get my damn head together to do my work.
I need to pull myself out of this, not pull myself out by breaking up with him, but pull my head out enough, so I take care of myself.
I really do love him, and I really want to stand by him, but I need to take care of myself, I really do.
Thank you for the objective and helpful advice. I really appreciate it.
Hugs.
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Hugs to you. Sounds like you know exactly what you need to do. Now you just need to take proactive steps to take care of yourself, your school studies and keep your life on track. Don’t let missing him derail you. And yes, maintaining your own sobriety is very important. This is something you will need to determine... it could easily become a codependent relationship and an unhealthy one that sets you back many steps as opposed to forward. You have to think of your own health and needs foremost. It’s important. It’s not easy when you feel in love, but it’s helpful to take on an objective stance on the situation to determine what’s really healthiest. And what will work best for you.