Another case in point:

I told my therapist that my whole team needs official training, translating to a certification course in our field of practice. My therapist told me that my team may not WANT to complete a training course, and so I shouldn't make it mandatory IF I was promoted to be the team's leader. This was one of my ideas that she shot down.

I said to her, well, we're all required to get certified each year in one area of our work, and we're required to complete THAT training, so why not require the team to complete an additional training in our area of work that will make each person an expert, it will accelerate everyone's skill set, and it will create a standard in our field of practice for all to follow?

Not only that, but this will help our WHOLE company to be far more cutting edge AND thus competitive with other companies.

Here's a perfect quote I found that spells out the difference between my therapist's perspective and mine:



Yes, I must change therapists and SOON. She is going to create self-doubt, and I don't want to listen to her. She will hold me back.... I cannot allow that.

@sarahsweets, you're right. It's toxic for me.