LadyShadow, do you go to AA meetings so you can get support to stay sober? You can choose to go to women's meetings only at first too.

It is recommended not to get involved in a relationship until a person has a least a year of sobriety. It's hard if you get into a relationship with someone who also struggles with addiction. That being said, I also know some couples where they both work on their sobriety and go to meetings together and separately. Yet, these people are already couples.

I am wondering if this guy can find a "sober house" to live in instead of a group home where he encounters other's still using drugs or alcohol that can make it harder for him to stay sober. His chances would be better if he could live in a sober house where no one is using but instead committed to living their lives sober.