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Originally Posted by LundiHvalursson
Returning to disinfect stuff sounds like classic OCD, but the ruminating alone without rituals is Pure O.
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Wow, I didn't know that. Thanks for the information!
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Originally Posted by LundiHvalursson
t is true that it can be a bad cycle, rumination leads to having a depressed attitude and it makes it hard in dating. It just hurts each time I think about it, and then I think about it more an analyse it again. Thinking of how up to now I am basically behind everyone else. I ruminate about it, and then I fall more into depression. More indigestion. It is a pain.
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I wish you didn't have to be sad. I think I've become so depressed that no one wants to know me anymore. I wish there was a way to stop the vicious cycle. I've pretty much tried to go back to pretending everything's fine around people.
Do you have any interests or hobbies to help keep you occupied? Or maybe focus on ways to become more attractive to a girlfriend like working out or experimenting with new personal grooming products. Do you play any musical instruments? The thing that makes a guy attractive is if they seem very confident and aren't pursuing me. Maybe you can figure out a way to attract girls by working on your external image or skills so you have a proactive way to divert energy from ruminating.
You might even consider dating someone slightly older than you (but not if you will become too dependant on them). People can be overly critical of peers who are the same age. Whatever shortcomings you think you have won't seem as bad to someone older than you. You might gain some experience and when you are a bit older, you might become more confident and attractive to people of your age.