(Soliaree)

Yes, I understand this compulsion. It sounds like it is so difficult to wait to talk to him when you REALLY need to hear his voice. Maybe you can listen to saved messages? I like Perna's idea of making a list. When you exhaust all the options then you can go down the list and start over again if necessary.

It's this idea of living with and accepting ourselves. Why is it so hard? I think it has something to do with not internalizing effective coping skills or something like that.

Yeah, make your list and check it twice! You will be okay. I am glad you and T are working through stuff. You could always obsess here and send us tons of messages!
I think I'm going to listen to some old recordings of T's voice right now....

Peace