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Originally Posted by MrsA
I wish you didn't have to be sad. I think I've become so depressed that no one wants to know me anymore. I wish there was a way to stop the vicious cycle. I've pretty much tried to go back to pretending everything's fine around people.
Do you have any interests or hobbies to help keep you occupied? Or maybe focus on ways to become more attractive to a girlfriend like working out or experimenting with new personal grooming products. Do you play any musical instruments? The thing that makes a guy attractive is if they seem very confident and aren't pursuing me. Maybe you can figure out a way to attract girls by working on your external image or skills so you have a proactive way to divert energy from ruminating.
You might even consider dating someone slightly older than you (but not if you will become too dependant on them). People can be overly critical of peers who are the same age. Whatever shortcomings you think you have won't seem as bad to someone older than you. You might gain some experience and when you are a bit older, you might become more confident and attractive to people of your age.
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Yes, I do have a few hobbies to keep me occupied. But even so, my hobbies are solitary. When I am immersed in my hobbies I can feel in the back of my mind a certain loneliness. Studying stuff like foreign languages at home is not a social activity, so perhaps one of the problems is that women do not even see me in the first place. Often they do not know that I exist.
Personally I did like older women. They seem more mature in thinking, which is logical. I do notice that ones my age or younger seem to be more judgemental, on average. Perhaps dating for example a 60-something year old is not really ideal, but mid to late 30s or even 40s maybe.