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Originally Posted by divine1966
I am sorry you are struggling at the moment. Hopefully you can talk to a t about it (same or new).
As about kissing other women it’s a bit bothersome but then again he shared that with you (he didn’t have to), so perhaps it was just a mistake. Was he drinking? Was his marriage already ending? Does he feel bad about it?
Is there something else in your marriage that you sense is going wrong so you subconsciously worry about him cheating rather than about other real things that might bother you? If everything else is going well why would you worry about him cheating? If there are other real concerns, are you addressing them with him? Or is this the only concern?
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divine1966!
I really hope I can switch therapists and SOON.
He shared this with me (about kissing someone while he was married) only when I asked him more specifics. He and his ex had been having trouble for years, and during the last two years of their marriage, they did not have sex and slept in separate bedrooms. It was during that time that he kissed and almost slept with another woman. I don't fault him for his behavior, I just wanted him to be truthful with me, yet he had said he never cheated on his ex MULTIPLE times to me before finally revealing to me that he had kissed someone. His reasoning to me about not mentioning it the multiple times I asked is that he had forgotten about it or had blocked it from his mind. That's what he claims.
There's no other real issues bugging me right now other than my own trust issues. We've had a good marriage, but like any other, it has its ups and downs.