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Originally Posted by seesaw
Well, I feel you. I worked through Thanksgiving so I could take that weekend off, but my biggest client still kept pestering me while I was trying to take the first weekend off I'd taken ALL year. Then I came to visit my family for Christmas, got the flu from my stupid brother, and had to cancel my first real vacation in all of 2019 to visit my friend. I'm trying to make the most of it though. I figure, always look on the bright side cause I've spent too much of my life being angry and not having fun. Not going to let stupid stuff get in my way of enjoying what little time I have on this earth.
You and your husband love each other. Everything else is just small stuff right? Not trying to minimize your feelings; I know the hurt is real; but for me it also helps to think in the grand scheme of what I want - and if I wanted a nice holiday with my husband, I might try to just compartmentalize and say, I will discuss this in detail after the holiday, but I love him and want to enjoy this day. So I'm letting it go for now. I will pick it back up tomorrow.
I don't know if that works for you or not. I've just spent too much of my life being miserable that I won't allow it anymore.
Hope that helps.
Seesaw
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Oh dear.... you're SO right. I needed to hear some perspective, so thank you.
I do try to look at the bright side, or as much as I can, but I can definitely get bogged down in negative thinking. And that's all I've been doing! Coloring everything negative.
I have a hard time compartmentalizing, but I can put something off until tomorrow. That's the only way I know how to compartmentalize.
But yes, my husband and I love each other very much. That's the bigger picture. He'll get over his anger towards me and my recent f-up... I told him he must because marriage involves forgiveness. I seem to need a lot of forgiveness lately. Grrr.
Sorry your vacation got cancelled. I hope you can find something else enjoyable for yourself. Sounds like you will, if you're making the best of it all. That's great!