I definitely relate and have social anxiety, probably for similar reasons because I was excluded and sometimes picked on growing up. I have also had some workplace bullying I think. I struggle to make friends in general and to interact in the workplace. I do have a few close friends, but it is quite a lot of work for me outside of those people and I worry about not being liked or being made fun of, etc. I am working on it, but it's hard. I mentioned the issue to my therapist once, and she said that kids can be just plain mean, but if it's an issue as an adult that I am struggling with, to maybe ask someone I am close with what they notice about my social interactions that I might be missing. I asked a friend I'd known for a few years and they said they thought my interactions were pretty normal, but they said that another friend who met me commented I was very quiet. I think I am feeling so awkward and like people might not want me around so I barely talk sometimes. I think there are probably other things I do that impede my social interactions, so might need to ask some more friends. I am sorry that what your therapist said was triggering. I can understand why it would be hurtful. I agree with other that maybe you should tell your therapist.