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Child of a lesser god
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Dec 31, 2019 at 06:56 PM
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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty
Hey Couchies, how can you tell if you are angry or if your feelings are hurt? I am feeling angry but I think it might be that my feelings are hurt. Just something someone said to me at work. I'm trying to shrug it off but it's like screaming at me in my head. I'm feeling angry but I'm also feeling unheard, not valued, not listened to, which is making me feel uncared about, unloved, etc. So I'm thinking maybe my feelings are actually hurt but the anger that I feel is hiding it? Better question....how can I stop feeling this way? I don't want to SH over it (which is what I immediately think of, of course). I'm thinking about calling a friend after work, or stopping by her house but IDK as it is New Years Eve and all. It's like I want to get something out of me somehow. I'm not explaining it well, but that is how it feels. HUGS Kit
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Anger/hurt aren’t mutually exclusive. Someone hurts your feelings, you might get angry. I don’t see one as the mask for the other.
Instead of trying to stop an emotion, I’ve learned to sit with them and feel them. Stopping an emotion is when I do something like sh or eat emotionally, and even then they have not been dealt with. It’s harder but better in the long run to sit with them and acknowledge them and let them pass that way.
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