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Old Dec 31, 2019, 07:55 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Have you had the important conversations with him about both of your expectations?

When I got married we didn’t have these discussions. I hadn’t fessed up to all my prior sex experiences and neither did he. I am sorry I ever told him nearly everything after all this time, tbh. I only told him because we were struggling and I was comparing. Big mistake.

We were separated. I don’t know what he did. I don’t want to know.

I do feel confident that he doesn’t cheat. I have no reason to suspect. He’s always with me by his choice.

As for finances, we didn’t talk about that either. It was just trust gradually developed. I didn’t spend any more than he would have approved. He made all the money. He may have done things I don’t know about. I don’t really want to know. There’s nothing that was a glaring issue that I know about.

If you are married how does that work with your credit cards and his? Do you keep your money separate? He put purchases on yours but he paid you back. Is that a problem?

I guess these things need to be discussed if they are giving you anxiety.
We’ve talked about finances and the important things. We’re still learning how to be together in some ways I suppose and work out our issues.

We’re fighting right now actually. Almost broke up over this issue tonight. Still do t know if we’re breaking up.
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