Take a step back and give each other space. Then reconnect after you both cooled off.

Tisha asked about keeping separate money. I think it’s fairly common for people in second marriages/older couples/couples not raising kids to keep separate accounts. We keep our accounts separate but we contribute equally to expenses, just paying different bills which ends up roughly equal amount give and take. We have roughly same incomes. So we see no need to combine accounts. It would make no difference. But we also see no need to use each other cards. We have our own cards. Unless maybe one person’s card got stolen?

However if one needs to use other persons card, they need to tell what they charged. I’d think it’s fraudulent use or identity theft if I saw suspicious charge and my husband didn’t tell me.