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Old Dec 31, 2019, 10:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Paper Roses View Post
May I suggest something different?

A perspective change. Speaking just for me, I have control over no one but me.
I think that people sometimes cheat. Even people who are in love. I am as vulnerable as you are to those fears. But I have decided to accept that if that were to happen. If my husband were to cheat. I will see it as his lack of integrity.
I will decide what I will do if that happens. It is not about me but it will require a decision on my part. I have told him what I will do and that is all I can control.

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May leave or may not. I will however lose respect for him and things will never be the same. In the meantime enjoy. Hoping always for the best. Ask him to show you by being transparent.

I wish you all the happiness you deserve.
I love that perspective! In fact, I’ve tried to think what I’d do. It wouldn’t be the end. Just the end of my relationship. He knows this too.

We got over our fight it seems. We’re hanging out now.

Thank you.
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