This is from my opening post.... maybe you missed it?
Another problem is people who come to learn about AvPD for a family member or someone who is new to the disorder reads the forum and is confused even more.
The family treats the person according to what they believe to be true...bc its in the AvPD forum after all. The advice/Information that they receive will come from those without the disorder
None of that is helpful, and if the person asks a follow up question good chance that the individual will be confused even more. The individual needs to be able to identify and if they can't identify with a non-avie the circle of confusion continues to spin.

If you think I'm snapping at you, you have read this with anger to begin with... That also makes me think that you're being argumentive to begin with?
I'm asking for help/advice, I'm just putting it out there that there is a problem that has gone over looked

You're welcome to post there, go for it!
Just take into account the source when it comes to AvPD information and if you push us out any information given with come from those without the disorder rending any info useless.

Any information given will come from those without the disorder making it a guess and worthless.. basically lip service.
Which would be quite sad for someone newly dx or if they weren't but needed some information or if they just needed to identify first with an Avie to feel safe before they post.
(Avies aren't like others who can fill the forum with countless posts )

The forum should be for those who have the same personality, hence the reason it has AvPD on the door, plus it would stop all of this from happening, reinforcing a point