Hi there marysdaughter. Here to add my 2 cents if you don’t mind. I am what you call a loner too, but it is by choice. I used to have many friends and a busy social life, so much so that it made me physically and spiritually sick. The one thing I’ve found about isolation is that I get to define ME and marinade myself in ME until I am ready to share this Self to the world. When you are ready to share yourself with the world, you will offer others so much value because you have spent this time figuring the world out on your own. You will have fresh ideas, conversations and depth to add to others’ lives. Therefore, there is no need to fear connecting to others and building intimacy with friends for the first time because you hold a lot of value and it will be clear to you to see where and with whom you should invest your value in. You are in control. Hit the Refresh button on your relationships. Have fun and be blessed in 2020!