Ok Gymgirl then you have acquired skills to be independent, good for you. You need to find some outlets where you can meet healthier people who can offer you respect and be the type of person that is actually capable of appreciating you as a person. Also, you may find that if you attend some group ALCOA meetings and sometimes there are groups that meet where individuals can learn about Codepency and healing, that is helpful as well. You need to find someone who doesn't have addiction problems. Don't go to bars or clubs where this kind of person typically likes to hang out either.