Get busy with other stuff. Get a hobby? Get a second job, travel. Does your kid live with you? Hopefully he/she is elsewhere (at their dad?) when you were for days and nights at this drunk’s house. Find stuff to do with the teen, take them on a trip. Join meetup women social group. Join book club. Go to gym. Take a class. Volunteer for less fortunate. Get yourself busy so you have zero time to be lonely.

Stop focusing on this guy and what he does wrong. It doesn’t matter if he wasn’t over past relationship or not. He likely lied about that and how that relationship went. Who cares. You don’t know what’s inside other peoples’ heads and lives.

Analyzing other people 24/7 is a known strategy to keep you in a victim mode and not taking responsibility for your own life. Get the focus of him and focus on you. Plus that analysis is likely wrong anyways because you don’t really know other people well enough for that. You weren’t there when he was in that relationship or when he was growing up. So how do you even know what happened? All you can know is yourself.

Find a good therapist. You can do it. You deserve a good life So go get it!!!