Hello Feelnscared: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. One additional forum that may be of interest here on PC is the Partners of People & Caregivers forum. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/partn...ivers-support/

And then, since you're a dad, the Healthy Parenting forum may also be one to check out:

https://psychcentralforums.com/healthy-parenting/

I'm sorry you are having such a difficult time. Hopefully coming here to PC can be of some comfort & support. You wrote you feel you're being taken advantage of & you asked (I presume rhetorically) if you're insane. Of course you're not insane. It sounds to me as though you're doing a remarkable job of bearing up under extremely difficult circumstances. I guess I personally wouldn't say you're being taken advantage of either though since that would suggest your wife is doing what she's doing intentionally. And, although I'm not a mental health professional, I personally doubt that is the case.

Based on what you wrote it sounds as though your wife is seriously mentally ill & in that case perhaps not able to consciously make the decision to take advantage of you. Unfortunately in terms of how that affects you, either way, it's the same. And sadly unless & until your wife decides to seek the treatment she needs little, if anything, may be likely to change. So there may come a point where you will be forced to make some decisions regarding your marriage. I'm sure this will be agonizing for you.

Here are links to a selection of a dozen articles, from Psych Central's archives, that touch upon some of the concerns you raised in your post:

Top 10 Signs of Schizophrenia | Psych Central

Paranoid Schizophrenia | Symptoms & Diagnosis | Psych Central

Ten Things To Do When Everything Erupts | Bipolar Update

8 Ways To Cope With Someone Who Has Delusions | Caregivers, Family & Friends

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/careg...hout-fighting/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/10-tip...ental-illness/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/11-way...-denial/?all=1

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/welln...rom-an-expert/

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/welln...artner-part-2/

My best wishes to you & your family. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.