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Old Jan 01, 2020, 03:21 PM
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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche View Post
Oh well that happens. But, why would your husband 'leave you' over hurting someone's feelings?

Edit to add: I would not send her flowers. What would that do?

Did you just tell other people that she was a terrible person?

I would give a lot of space to the person you hurt, then reach out and invite her to meet with you over coffee so you could apologize to her in person if you haven't done that already.

Well, we're on opposite coasts, and it's my husband's family member. He's the one who suggested flowers, so I am doing as he asks.

My husband wouldn't leave me over hurt feelings. He will leave me if I continue to not trust him, as I wrote about in the relationship forum. I have trouble trusting, and I am ruining my marriage as a direct result.
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