Now I get it. I understand why you feel frustrated with yourself. It's good that your husband has calmed down today. I don't think you need to stop sharing your insecurities with your husband. Why should you? If it helps you process through your trust issues hearing his feedback when you need it, I think that's actually proactive. But, what do I know. I can't sustain a romantic relationship b/c I choose emotionally unavailable men. In theory I'm good, but in practice, not so much.

Hang in there. It's a new year.