I don’t know what you did and how bad is it but I don’t see how YOU are ruining your marriage.

Your husband is on the phone the minute he walks in until he goes to bed. He is even on the phone when watching tv or cuddling? Not saying he is up to no good on the phone (although it’s very possible) but what the heck, when is he communicating to you or does anything useful at home?

His phone needs to be put away or It might have to go to trash (not really but it’s aggravating). Not saying he needs to be attached to your hip but at the very least he needs a hobby.

It’s alarming that he does all kind of insane things and you are the one to blame for reacting to it. Sure you should control your reactions but when we are pushed to the edge we end up reacting, perhaps inappropriately. Don’t know if you have “trust” issue. I think you might have “husband” issue.

I have no doubt he loves you. But if love was enough divorce rate would be 0%. Everyone marries for love. That’s not unique. He needs to do more than profess his love though.