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Old Jan 01, 2020, 06:54 PM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Well you don’t trust him because he gives you some reasons to not trust him. Not saying he cheats. But he does other strange things.

Was he fighting about same thing on thanksgiving too, didn’t even go to a family dinner with you because he was mad about something? Or different topic?

You made a mistake. You apologized. He could be upset if it’s his family member effected but if it wasn’t this, he’d be mad about something else. He seems to like drama and fighting and being mad.

I don’t recommend you shut your mouth, don’t share and worry about him leaving. Maybe he needs to start worrying about you leaving. Why is having all the power? It doesn’t seem equal
Well he also had a migraine on thanksgiving but yeah he didn’t want to go. I was hurt. And yes, we were fighting about the same issue, about my trust in him.

We do seem to have equal power. Sometimes it weighs more in his direction, and sometimes in mine. He worries I will leave too sometimes. He does escalate things into fights. I do think he likes to argue. I don’t. I hate it. We don't fight too often. Most times we get along great. He seems to be past this most recent issue right now, but I still feel horrible. I tend to beat myself up when I make a mistake.
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Last edited by Have Hope; Jan 01, 2020 at 07:26 PM.