Ah. Chat can be a funny place... I've seen a few threads on the general board of people finding that they don't feel accepted in chat. That people won't talk to them, or whatever. Maybe part of the problem with chat is... The absence or flouting of etiquette? Sounds like you are a sensitive person. There might have been some weirdness in chat (it isn't at all uncommon). But... Typically the people who internalize the responsibility... Are the ones who it is precisely NOT about. But then I don't really know what you are talking about... PM me about it if you want to check... Or someone else maybe who understands the etiquette (if there is one) better than me lol.

Some people are triggered... I've had a couple people be really very triggered by my choosing to post in a grey colour. There was some controversy when I said 'I'm sorry, but I want to continue posting in this colour'. I asserted myself by asserting something that meant something to me even if others didn't understand. Other people didn't seem to understand. I guess the upshot is that they don't have to understand. I tried to help them to but sometimes... Ya just gotta live your life even when others disaprove of some of your choices.

There is something to the 'act yourself into feeling different' idea. But then there also comes a point where that is just about distraction... And it doesn't really help anything along. Emotions are hard, yeah.