@Gymgirl71, I used to get obsessed with ex's who didn't give me the love, caring, respect and attention I deserved. I was looking to them to give me the self-worth and love I lacked within myself. IF I could get that unavailable, emotionally abusive man to just show me that he loved me, and bend over backwards with apologies and love, then I would feel worthy of his love and of anyone's love. That is faulty thinking, and I suspect it's what you're doing as well. We have to first love ourselves and feel that we are worthy. When we feel worthy and when we fill ourselves with self-love and self-respect, it is MUCH easier to shun and walk away from someone who is not giving us the love and respect we deserve. This is something you need to work on... it is something I am still working on for myself. (((hugs)))