Yes, really great advice in this thread.

I'm sorry, gymgirl.

I've been that person, too, and I know that sometimes nothing works. The lure of ANY kind of contact is a million times stronger than anything on earth. One message from them and an orchestra strikes up. Angels start to sing. One is back in the blissful land of Love, rather than out there (forever) in the cold.

It's absolutely right to try and see the cycle, and work on your issues and everything. But maybe you could tell us what you feel might actually work?

Just to let you know, I suffered so much that I developed a sub-personality to deal with the situation.

No offence to people with other mental health conditions. Mine was a semi-conscious choice, and I realise that it in no way compares with what many others go through.

Gymgirl, I don't suggest developing a sub-personality!

But mine did help to get rid of Him.

She was very assertive, didn't care about anything and was extremely rude to that person's face. Over and over.

Maybe you can see from my experience that I had those powers inside myself all the time, but I just could not access them.