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Originally Posted by Cardooney
Thank you  she really is over the top. I care for her in a way, and I empathize with her anxious condition, but she has that mean streak.
It seems that she can come whipping into my office whenever. I feel like I have to be accessible to her. I don’t think that can change.
All I can think of is to respectfully respond to her with my thoughts. I don’t think she can be ignored. so I have to learn to be direct and confident with her when she’s in her mood. But carefully. Normally I fawn I think.
I have had lots of counseling in the past and I do miss it. No meds, afraid to do that.
A new job would be lovely. |
You have some good ideas. And you're right. We cannot change others' behaviors. We can only change how we react to their behaviors.
So if you feel you fawn too much, then pull back and strictly be professional. Remain professional whenever she is not.
Don't feed into her negativity towards others. Just politely nod and excuse yourself... pretend you have work to do.
I would minimize all negative interactions with her as much as possible, and just stick to your work... pretend to always be busy with your own work.
Above all else, just remain professional and keep an emotional shield up to protect yourself.
And yes, in the meantime, maybe you can find a counselor and also another job!