For me, I have to first allow myself to feel the hurt and be angry (it is hard for me to get angry and when I do, it doesn't last very long) then I have to try to not focus on feeling sorry for them and just focus on myself. Most people who do hurtful things have been hurt themselves and I feel for them but have to remember that once they have hurt me, if they don't truly change (it takes a long time to change) then I need to protect myself. Protection takes many forms but if we keep thinking about how they hurt us then that in and of itself triggers the hurt over and over inside. Perhaps "forgiveness" is simply about moving on. Basically, learning to rarely think about the person who hurt us. Thinking about being hurt is a negative thought that fuels depression. I try to think about the people who have been caring toward me. I now try to stay away from negative people and problems. I love so many people on PC but am not reading as many posts talking about problems because I don't want to expose my thoughts to negativity. This is why I also don't consume as much news anymore.