I am so sorry to read this. You've definitely done the right thing which must have been incredibly painful under the circumstances but you deserve much better than that. You deserve empathy and compassion and a T who will respect your wishes, including if or when you choose to disclose your history. After all, therapy is for you, not the therapist. What right does he have to demand anything of you, Well done for knowing he wasn't right for you.

Moving on comes naturally when you've grieved. Let yourself feel the pain and then it will start to ease. Don't force yourself to move on when you're still hurting. Grieve for the fact you longed for him to care for you and that it is a perfectly natural thing to have longed for. Honestly, you will get through this if you let yourself feel, then over time it wil get easier and you will be best place to know how you wish to go forward.