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Buffy01 · Jan 03, 2020 at 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by BBGR

Hello,

I am for almost 10 years in a relation with my now fiance, and future wife.

I consider her as a perfect woman for me: beautiful, fun, I never get bored with her, we have so much in common etc

Before her I just saw a couple of women,but she was my only real girlfriend.

The first years of relation with her were intense, I was very often very aroused near her. We were kinda shy (I think I had also some psychological ed) so we started to get intimate slowly.

Sex with her is, also now, sweet and enjoyable with her, but I am not as aroused as I was in the beginning, which I think is very normal.

However, after a few years of being with her, I started to become more and more obsessed with thinking about other women, till I saw some others knew from internet.

Possible trigger:

I started also going to escorts/prostitutes, as I felt I want to experiment more, with other women also. I did only oral sex with them (me active)

I never intended to find another women to replace my GF.

Till now, I cheated on her with around 20 women (only oral sex), only with one I had also normal sex - this one was like the only "long affair" (I kinda got sexually bored also of her after a while, even tho I felt the lust feeling; but the love feeling was surely all the time for my fiance)

Usually after I make something sexually with a women I don't know, I am no longer interested in her.

I cheat mostly from impulse. Also that I feel myself often very aroused and thinking a lot about sex with women I don't know.

But I really do love my fiance.

Just that I find it hard to resist to do sexual stuff with other women.

What do you think?

I really think your fiance need to know and if your cheating on her now what going to happen when your married. She need to know that she need to be tested for std. I would seek a therapist who specializes in cheating How can you love someone that you been cheating on?