AJ - call the Alzheimers Association 800 #. Ask them for assistance with your mother who sounds like she has dementia. You'll need to take her to a doctor appointment, have them do a memory test on her, so that the doctor can refer you and your sister to hire outside nursing assistance services (nurses will come over in shifts to do housework, grocery shop, laundry, give your mother her meds, bathe her, help her with her night time routine). Insurance will cover these services as long as you have her doctor's referral but your mother has to fail her doctor's memory test which is where the nurse will ask her random questions for 2 minutes.