Unfortunately some people are like this and it's very draining and toxic and affects people's self esteem , especially when they are empaths and good hearted. I would explore this more with your T , it's disturbing when we begin to pick this up and confusing. There are many YouTube videos that talk about this , just search for " Is this friendship toxic " or " Gaslighting in friendships/ relationships " Sometimes we need to remove ourselves from these situations for our own wellbeing , and have the support to do that.