Not throwing my spiritual system at anyone here, but I am a Christian and we are taught to forgive everyone. I try. I really do. But I don't think I will ever forgive my older brother for still, after 11 years, failing to acknowledge the birth or existence of my daughter (2nd child). Too long a story. Hurt me, be an a-hole to me all you want. I can deal. But hurt my kids?

You are dead to me. He may be genetically related to me, but he is a POS.