I should probably explain. I was "in the lifestyle" as we called it. I was a kinkster and a sadist. I was a Domme for a little over 5 years. I never hurt anyone without their consent. I'm mostly into spanking - other people. What can I say? I'm good at it and I think it's great fun. My husband has been my submissive during all that time but I wanted another as well. A 40 year old transgender woman walked into my life and I guess I fell in love with her. That's what he says I did, but that's not how it feels to me.

The relationship between a Domme and her submissive(s) is a complicated one. The submissive gives him/herself completely to their Domme. I control them, help them to become better people, make them feel needed, and generally make sure they are living up to their potential. There are different types of subs. I prefer service subs but some Dommes are sexual with their subs. I never have been because I am married for 27 years. Any man would appreciate having a wife so faithful as I am. Never once have I cheated on him. Ever.

Not good enough. I am not allowed anymore to have any other people in my life as I have tried to enjoy, knowing I'm not doing anything wrong. Unfortunately, his jealousy drove me to tell my friend and potential sub to take a hike. I couldn't take his passive aggressive comments like 'why don't you go live with her' - i just might before all is said and done.

After that, I had to 'hang up my corset' because of the humiliation. A true Domme does not allow anyone else to dictate who she does and does not take on a submissive. THAT'S HER JOB!

I guess what I want to know is, is his jealousy justified? I don't see how if there's no sex involved.