I think forgivness is for the forgiver but that it also gets confused with acceptance. If my mind and spirit are constantly monopolized by what others have done to me I might forgive them but only if I think that forgiving will help me. There is no forgetting. Some things are never forgivable despite what society tells us but I do believe most things can be forgiven. If someone god forbid, hurt my children I dont know if I could forgive them but I could work on acceptance. Forgiveness can be very healing when its warranted but the idea that people all have to forgive to move on is not something I can get behind.

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I forgave my father partly because I needed to and partly because once I was an adult I was able to put his upbringing in perspective as far as it came to parenting me. I wrote him a letter on his 47th birthday forgiving him, we had been seeing each other and having a relationship for about 2 years prior to that. I mailed his letter 3/8/00 and his birthday was 3/9/00. Around 2 in the morning of 3/9 he called his girlfriend telling her about this wonderful letter he got from me and crying. At 7am on 3/9 he dropped dead from a heart attack at age 47. Died on his birthday. I know that if I didnt have that chance to forgive him I would have had years of regret so everything depends on circumstance.